There are multiple transitions in one's life.. From being in a cradle to walking then from school to college..from kid to teenage and teenage to adult/youth and so on..Each transition comes naturally but at the same time we do have to put in efforts to change according to the transitions..The change is definitely not easy.The start comes with a struggle with accepting the beginning of a transition and the trying to get used to it.Somehow when you learn things and start getting used to it, the realization dawns on you that its time to move on.
Currently I'm in a transition phase right now.For me its the transition from "didi" which means elder sister in Hindi to Aunty! It was an year ago that I went along with my friend to a school to conduct a program for girls from class 8th to 12th. When we reached the venue, the in-charge there told us "Students of class XII, go to 2nd floor, 2 room to the left'. It took a moment for me and my friend to understand what she exactly meant. We replied that we had come to conduct the program, not attend it. She then apologized and said she mistook us for 12th std girls. It was a compliment. Then I was married for 4 months and working since 2 after my graduation, and still being considered as a teenager(Though in mind some part of it is still stuck in that phase) was a compliment.
Today, a year after that incident, I'm on the way to motherhood. Just a few more months to go. I'm at my mothers house and here I got the opportunity to teach a few girls dance for a program. When I used to be in school, there used to be categories to call elders. Based on the categories they were classified into didi,bhaiya,uncle,aunty or just name.Elders who are still studying or working and unmarried where called didi/bhaiya(elder sister/elder bhaiya).Then even if they looked young and were married they were called uncle/aunty. If they have a baby then definitely aunty/uncle!Anyone beyond that were all catogorised under uncle/aunty. The dreaded phase for any girl is when she is called aunty though she is still young(well in woman's brain, she is younger than everyone else all the time).
Until a year ago, I didn't think my time to aunty phase would come so soon.But now I'm inevitably and happily in that phase. The teachers who had brought the girls knew me since I was a kid.So they urged the girls to call me as didi. But the baby bump definitely said that I had surpassed that classification.They called me didi but aunty used slip out in between. A woman always wants to be called young and be recognized as young.The scene from my favorite childhood TV series"Hum panch" I recollect this character who was married and was in mid 40s and whenever the people used to call her aunty she used to say "Aunty mat kahona"(Dont call me aunty).
For me, at this point in some part of my brain I'm still a teenager still trying to understand things around me, getting confused while taking decisions, as a spouse I'm trying to understand my husband and fit in better to the family, now as I am about to take on a new role as a mother, I am still working out as how the experience would be. To be responsible for a life. A life, depending on you. I get goosebumps each time I think about it.
Currently I'm in a transition phase right now.For me its the transition from "didi" which means elder sister in Hindi to Aunty! It was an year ago that I went along with my friend to a school to conduct a program for girls from class 8th to 12th. When we reached the venue, the in-charge there told us "Students of class XII, go to 2nd floor, 2 room to the left'. It took a moment for me and my friend to understand what she exactly meant. We replied that we had come to conduct the program, not attend it. She then apologized and said she mistook us for 12th std girls. It was a compliment. Then I was married for 4 months and working since 2 after my graduation, and still being considered as a teenager(Though in mind some part of it is still stuck in that phase) was a compliment.
Today, a year after that incident, I'm on the way to motherhood. Just a few more months to go. I'm at my mothers house and here I got the opportunity to teach a few girls dance for a program. When I used to be in school, there used to be categories to call elders. Based on the categories they were classified into didi,bhaiya,uncle,aunty or just name.Elders who are still studying or working and unmarried where called didi/bhaiya(elder sister/elder bhaiya).Then even if they looked young and were married they were called uncle/aunty. If they have a baby then definitely aunty/uncle!Anyone beyond that were all catogorised under uncle/aunty. The dreaded phase for any girl is when she is called aunty though she is still young(well in woman's brain, she is younger than everyone else all the time).
Until a year ago, I didn't think my time to aunty phase would come so soon.But now I'm inevitably and happily in that phase. The teachers who had brought the girls knew me since I was a kid.So they urged the girls to call me as didi. But the baby bump definitely said that I had surpassed that classification.They called me didi but aunty used slip out in between. A woman always wants to be called young and be recognized as young.The scene from my favorite childhood TV series"Hum panch" I recollect this character who was married and was in mid 40s and whenever the people used to call her aunty she used to say "Aunty mat kahona"(Dont call me aunty).
For me, at this point in some part of my brain I'm still a teenager still trying to understand things around me, getting confused while taking decisions, as a spouse I'm trying to understand my husband and fit in better to the family, now as I am about to take on a new role as a mother, I am still working out as how the experience would be. To be responsible for a life. A life, depending on you. I get goosebumps each time I think about it.
